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THE WEEK OF FORGIVENESS
11 - 17 FEBRUARY 2018

Sophias Rose invites you to participate in the Week of Forgiveness 2018.

Forgiveness is perhaps the most important but also the most difficult quality to develop. And what is it to forgive?

Forgiveness is sacrifice, but for so long man has been told to forgive even if he hasn’t had a chance to do it from his heart. As long as he isn’t urged from within himself to forgive there will be no true forgiveness. As long as he wants so much to forgive, but is still angry or feeling offended, he can only seek to forgive because he is told to, and it will not be true forgiveness.

You are only able to forgive when you can give to the other from both your heart and mind, if you deep in your heart have chosen to give love to the person you experience as the offender without any negative thoughts and expectations of what will come out of it. You shouldn’t demand any reaction or response from the forgiven. It is all happening within you. You set yourself free when you forgive. You cut the ties that have poisoned your life and held you and the offender tied to each other.

It is so true that by forgiving you will see the great influence your anger, disappointment and feeling of being offended have had on your life expected the offender to be the one to excuse for what you feel s/he had done to you. If you think it through, you will realize that an excuse from the offender won’t help if s/he is forced to excuse, if it doesn’t come from his/her heart. Sometimes the offender doesn’t even know why and for what to excuse, it is only you who have poisoned your life with something that the offender wasn’t even aware of having done. You have to do the forgiveness work inside yourself.

The only way to become liberated from negative emotions and thoughts toward other people, who you experience have offended you is to forgive them, no matter how reasonable you experience your anger and mental and emotional wounds to be. Only you can loosen the Gordian knot that has hampered you for so long.

Look inside and turn your own light on to see how much energy you use to be angry or hurt or offended. When you turn on your light you’ll lift yourself a little above your usual way of thinking and feeling and use the visualization we use every year in the forgiveness week. You can use it at all times and in all situations all year round.

Sometimes you may feel it may be dangerous to forgive because you have lived with your anger or feeling of being hurt for so long that it has become a part of your DNA. It has become impossible for you to imagine how life would be without It. Ask yourself why you need an excuse? Sometimes an excuse may help, but very often it does not.


ABOUT FORGIVENESS

To forgive is not ‘to conclude’.


To forgive is not to excuse or ask for pardon.


To forgive is not to keep your mouth shut if you are still angry or offended or hurt.


To forgive is not to forget.


To forgive is the best gift you can give to yourself and others.


A heart that forgives, what it experiences as injustice, can be likened to an oyster healing a wound in its shell with a pearl.


Forgiveness is to forgive psychologically through a self-chosen decision to change your attitude through an active inner act. You need not always do something outwardly because when you change your attitude and thoughts you set both yourself and the other free.


If we can see a little more in our own light than we use to in our prison of anger, offense or hurt, we will see the one who hurts us as a valuable person who struggles with the same needs, pressures and confusions as we ourselves. We will find that what really happened in the first place had nothing to do with us. It was the offender’s attempt to meet his own needs.

Viewed from that angle, we will be in a position where we can forgive others, whether they are aware of or regret what they have done or not.



THE WEEK OF FORGIVENESS 11 - 17 FEBRUARY 2018

SUGGESTIONS & TECHNIQUE

11. Feb.  Forgive living members of your family

12. Feb.  Forgive friends and fellow-students

13. Feb.  Forgive associates in your work situation

14. Feb.  Forgive across local and international political lines

15. Feb.  Forgive across religious, ideological and racial lines

16. Feb.  Forgive deceased persons in any of the above categories

17. Feb.  Have you been able unconditionally to give yourself to others by absolving them and so “Forgiving” yourself?



SUGGESTED FORGIVENESS MEDITATION OUTLINE

a) Use your customary settling-in mode; then speak mentally:

“May I, together with all men everywhere,
respond to the keynote of the universe and give myself for others”.


b) Visualization:

1. Imaginatively choose a congenial place (room, garden. etc.) supportive in its atmosphere of harmony and peace, sheltered from any disturbance.

2. In the distance, recognize the appropriate person or group against whom you harbour resentment, slowly approaching you.

3. As the distance between you both diminishes, imagine yourself advancing until, when close to each other, you perform a gesture of your choice which, to you, symbolizes forgiveness. Endeavour at this point, insofar as it is possible from the point of view of memory, to make eye contact with the person concerned.

4. Gently release your onetime adversary, now friend and co-aspirant.


c) A poignant moment of alert stillness.


d) Mentally recite:

“Let the Forces of Light bring illumination to mankind;
Let the Spirit of Peace be spread abroad,
May men of goodwill everywhere meet in a spirit of cooperation:
MAY FORGIVENESS ON THE PART OF ALL MEN BE THE KEYNOTE AT THIS TIME;
Let power attend the efforts of the Great Ones
So let it be, and help me to do my part.

OM OM OM

(Steps 2 and 3 are to be repeated if the aim is to forgive more than one person on any one day.)




PREPARATION FOR THE WEEK OF FORGIVENESS: 04 - 10 FEBRUARY 2018

1. Maximum honesty is essential through the entire period.

2. Question whether you truly feel the urge to participate in this work of goodwill.

3. Are you prepared to face some none-too-flattering truths about yourself for the sake of this work?

4. You may have to dig deep to uncover your resentment(s). We are very good at covering up! Remember, it is personality which takes hurt and resents and hides, not the inner essence.

5. Decide the person(s) and/or groups in each of the first six categories for whom to give. If there is more than one, repeat the meditation procedure for as many times as required on that specific day or carry over to days on which the categories may not apply in your case. Also consider that careful unbiased self-scrutiny could reveal the advisability of practicing forgiveness where, unconsciously, resentment has been transferred to a third party. i.e. you may feel able to forgive a hurt inflicted upon you but not when the hurt has been inflicted upon another, or others.

6. Be methodical and work with discipline. List in advance the names of those to be ‘given for’ so as to leave all of your available time for the work itself.

7. At what time should you practice the Forgiveness meditation? The choice is yours. If you have your own established daily meditation routine, it would be preferable, for this week, to find an additional time slot for this special work. It is suggested that you practice it each day, unfailingly.

DO YOUR MEDITATION WORK THROUGHOUT THE WEEK AND THEREAFTER BY IMPLEMENTING THE NEW ATTITUDES BY ACTIVELY LIVING THEM.



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